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Porn, Erections, Sexual Potency, and Ways to Tonify and Balance

Porn.  It’s our world’s most dominant sex education platform available (though the industry is clearly not intending it to be educational..).  It is not only where people go for visual sexual stimulation, and it is where people go to learn about how to “do the deed”, and equip themselves with the knowledge of how to give pleasure to a person of desired affections (which tends to highly miss the mark in reality).  Some porn is better than others.  Most of it is shit.  Though, nowadays, there are pornographer’s who are creating with an intention to empower women, be more realistic, sensual, erotic, and educational (I will list a couple pornographer’s in this realm at the end of this article).  There is a generational shift that has occurred, and is being reflected in men’s sexual vitality and function, since the availability of pornography has become in reach with a simple click of a button.  Many more young people are watching porn now than ever before. 

Dicks.  It is a common experience to have a client cross my table whose penis is very weak (to almost numb) from too much masturbation and sexual stimulation.  One may think that these clients must be in their older age and the vitality has naturally declined.  On the contrary, most of these men are younger, in their late 20’s to late 30’s.  In fact, I see more clients in their 70’s who have far greater sexual vitality and strength in their cocks than some of the young bucks who have gone over kill with the self pleasuring and sex.  Why, how can this be?    

I hate to break it you to men out there, you are born with a limited amount of sexual vitality.  This vitality is predetermined by genetics, and then is either nourished or depleted by lifestyle (mostly it’s depleted due to lack of awareness and actual practice of healthy lifestyle habits).  There comes a time when your body won’t have the energy to get an erection, and you bring that time closer to you when you are excessively pleasuring yourself or being sexually stimulated.  That release at orgasm is not only of physical substance, it’s energetic, and once it is out, you don’t get it back.  This is generally how life force energy works for all of us every day.  We are on a constant spending mode of this life force energy, no matter how great we eat, how well we take care of ourselves, we are in fact ultimately at some point or another going to age and die.  While we can’t actually add life force energy back to our bodies, we can revitalize and strengthen the rest of the energy still contained within us. 

Women are different, we have a sexual function and anatomy that can last our whole lives.  Sure, at some point there may be hormonal changes, less interest and natural lube, but women will always physically be able to have sex when desired. 

Some questions that may be naturally arising from you, the reader, at this point may be:

  • How do I prevent that from happening to me?
  • How do I maintain my sexual potency?
  • If I’m a person experiencing the results of too much stimulation, what can I do about it to bring strength back into my arousal and erections?

To maintain vitality, prevent and correct premature loss of sexual potency, you will need to be mindful of how often you are ‘beating off’.  I’ve come to discover that masturbation is the preferred easy go-to way that most men practice any form of self care in their lives.  Men, you need to create other ways to take care of yourself on the daily, which are actually replenishing to your system.  Masturbation is a Band-Aid if used excessively for stress relief, as the feeling is fleeting, and doesn’t address the deeper aspects of your being that are really needing nourishment in some way.  Other ways to support your body’s vitality are:

  • Get regular full nights of restful sleep
  • Learn to manage your stress levels so you can meet life’s challenges in balanced ways
  • Eat healthy whole foods, especially roots, bone broths, meats, eggs, dark pigmented fruits (berries, plums, dark grapes), veggies (dark greens, beets, purple potato’s, black radish), grains (black or red rice), and legumes (kidney beans, black beans)
  • Use green tea as your caffeine source (sorry to tell you, but if you are having issues with sexual vitality, you need to let go of your coffee addiction if you want to gain it back.  Black tea too, enjoy these 2 very sparse to not at all)
  • Medicinal herbs (every body is different, the best way to learn which herbs are best for your body is to get an herbal consultation done.  I like the Chinese and Ayurvedic systems, I find them to be most comprehensive, and am happy to recommend practitioners to you)
  • Balanced lifestyle: How you sleep, what you eat, regular movement, choices of how you spend your time and the relationships you have around you, how you support and nourish your body/mind/spirit connection
  • Regular masturbation and sexual experience that doesn’t lead to ejaculation (I know – I can hear the confusion and ‘wtf’ crossing your minds right now.  Trust me, and more on this soon)
  • Keep recreational drugs and stimulants like tobacco out or use very limited, and follow it up by practicing good self care, in the case you do choose to have an ‘all-nighter’ with something fun
  • Meditation and yoga breath work help nourish the sexual energy in the body, because of how it supports the kidney’s and adrenals (hey if you’ve been needing some extra motivation to meditate, here ya go!)

Ancient Chinese vitality practice:

One of the vitality practices the emperors maintained, was frequent sexual activity without ejaculation.  Emperors would commonly have in range of 80 wives.  They were ‘getting it on’ a lot!  However, they were not ‘spilling their seed’ every time they would engage.  It was a rule of thumb, that they would only cum 1x/week in the Spring and Summer, and 1x/month in the Fall and Winter. 

When we are sexually aroused, it stimulates the energy of the kidneys and adrenals – the root of our sexual energy in our body. When a man has a release, he omits that energy outwards.  The idea is to keep it in the body, and allow it to nourish and replenish the body’s vitality.  There are numerous resources out there on this topic these days, and it can be practiced both with a partner or by oneself.

side note – men struggling with premature ejaculation can also benefit from this article. 

Ejaculate less, live a more healthy and balanced lifestyle, have a regular daily self care practice.  Men, here’s an opportunity to level up within your self, to best support you in being able to enjoy sexual pleasure into your later years, and share that pleasure with your beloved.  Please feel free to contact me for further consulting. 

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